Monthly Archives: May 2013


“If everything isn’t black and white, I say, “Why the hell not?” ~ John Wayne


I can so agree with that quote.   Decisions and choices can have so many variables its overwhelming.   Would be so much easier if things were just black and white and hot and cold.   Not going to be tho.   So what do you do when your faced with a hard decision?    Measure the risks.    Measure the benefits.   Consider the repercussions.    But in the end…  The decision you make has to be the one that is right for you.    What do you need and how do you make it happen?    What makes you the happiest?     With all these questions in mind.   I put on my big girl panties and my new racy black outfit and prepared myself for the tough road ahead.


Wished Everything Was Black And White While Wearing….

Hair – [LeLutka]-BOUFFANT hair/Naturals

Headband – RO – Crown of Thorns

Hairbase – [LeLutka]-HAIRBASE Pitch

Skin – -Belleza- Mya Tan Line

Eyes – Mayfly – Liquid Light Mesh Eye (Desert Dawn Shadow)

Eyelashes – *REDGRAVE* Eyelashes -31- ExtraLong

Outfit – Razor /// Ring Leader – Black

Nylons – *Sheer* Stockings

Boots – Slink Tall Leather Thigh Boots Black

Hands – Slink Avatar Enhancement Hand Casual

Nails – Orc Inc. : Slink Avatar Enhancement Nails – Rich Set 1

Tattoos – Vestigium – Dead Ink

Bracelets – *BLITZED* Legacy Cuffs – black

Watch – *BLITZED* Legacy watch – black

Necklace – n*l Zombie*Pearls Necklace Black & Snake

Collar – [..::Cuca Designs::..] Black Leather Choker – Plain


I’ve never been a good one for decision-making…

esp if the decision involves another person and could cause them hurt…

But sometimes.. you just gotta do what you gotta do….

if it’s the best thing for you…

Keep me in mind while I struggle with tough decisions…

Til then…

Lavindia J. Fox


spreek je Nederlands?

“The fishermen know that the sea is dangerous and the storm terrible, but they have never found these dangers sufficient reason for remaining ashore” ~ Vincent van Gogh quotes


Oh yes I’ve been shopping at one of my favorite shops again.   Miel has been one of my favorite stores for as long as I can remember.    Cruised thru their the other day and came out with a lot of new things.   These adorable racer back tanks from various countries caught my eye.   I have a great friend here on SL that I first thought of as “Big Scary”   but now he is fondly my “Joopster”.    He is a great sounding board for me on so many topics.    So I felt the need to do a little shout out for my special friend by wearing the flag of his home country.    So shirts off to you Joopster!   Much love!


Made A Mess Of Easy Dutch Words Wearing:

Hair – Exile::Hearts Don’t Breakeven Natural Fusion

Skin – -Belleza- Mya Tan



Hands – Slink Avatar Enhancement Hand Casual

Feet – [Gos] Boutique – Barefeet V2 – Flat

Flipflops – [Gos] Boutique – FlipFlops – Colour Collection

Sunglasses – [SteinWerk] – Aviator Custom Sunglasses

Bracelets – +ROZOREGALIA+*Gazellver*BRACELET

Neclace – [MANDALA] SHAMIRA DOG TAG Necklace

Ankle Bracelet – +ROZOREGALIA+*Gazellver*Anklets

Tattoo – Vestigium – Little Lamb

Setting – Baja Norte


*steps off into the leaky boat with the ripped sail and hopes for the best*

Til next time…

Remember that old saying ….

“Men should be like coffee, hot sweet and strong” — Dutch Proverb

Sounds like my buddy Joopster!


Lavindia J. Fox


Southern Comfort….

“I wasn´t looking for a man at all. That changed when I saw you. I picked you because I couldn´t not pick you”.”
― Robin Covington, A Night of Southern Comfort
The words Southern Comfort make me immediately think of whiskey.   My bff Tyger describes it as…”smooth and sexy…..dark and mysterious”.   To that I must simply reply… *RAWR*!   I’m showing off some items that I picked up at The Boobies Show.  The clothing options for the mesh boobies are just getting better and better.   I absolutely fell in love with this cute little black dress.   The bottom part is mesh which… you know I love.. and the top works near seamlessly with the applier.   So I can kick back and enjoy some Southern Comfort and look amazing doing it!   The skin is also new from The Boobies Show.   DeeTaleZ released this awesome skin and I love love love it!    All in all.. I think I made a pretty good haul from The Boobies Show.   Now to get all of my great items neatly organized.   A shoppers work is never done is it.   *Cheers*
Contemplated The Slow Burn of Southern Comfort Wearing….
Hair – [LeLutka]-BOUFFANT hair/Naturals
Hairbase – [LeLutka]-HAIRBASE Fat Pack
Boobs – Lolas ::: Tango ::: Mesh Breasts
Dress – .tsg. Summer Dress – Black @ TBS
Hands – Slink Avatar Enhancement Hand Casual
Feet – Slink Avatar Enhancement Flat Feet
Shoes – Slink Margot Ballet Slippers Black
Bracelets – [EY:NO] Mess Bangles (silver)  – Modified color to black
Collar – *BOOM* Precious Bow Choker/Collar (pitch)
Poses – oOo Studio: Surface
Setting – MAYFAIR
If you don’t recognize this contraption I’m using as my prop….
It’s a phone booth!
I wonder how many of them actually get used these cellular days.
I sometimes miss only being able to walk as far as the phone cord would allow….
Back in the day I guess…..
Reach out and Touch someone won’t ya….
*holds up her glass and winks*
I’m your “comfortable southern”  blogger…
Lavindia J. Fox

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“Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it inflames the great.” ―  Roger de Bussy-Rabutin
Maybe I should do a poll.   How many of us actually feel that absence makes the heart grow fonder?    How many of us feel separation like a physical pain?    How many of us enjoy our freedom and solitude?   How many of us feel the absence and equate it with a sort of death?    I think maybe there are as many different feelings for being separated from a loved one as there are waves in the ocean.   Maybe the feelings come in waves.   Like watching the ocean for the perfect wave.   Some times you get a little wave of missing and other times…. the wave just crushes us and knocks us back and leaves us feeling drowned.   Or at least coughing and spitting alot of water out of our mouths.    I dunno… food for thought right?    I was contacted by the owners of [Ner .Ink] this week and asked to promo one of their lovely tattoos.    I picked this great colorful arm tattoo.   I think its love!!    The colors are great!   I’ve never considered wearing colorful tattoos before.   But shame on me!   These are gorgeous.   I used them to make a trendy little outfit with some great skinny pants from our friends at VELOCITY.   The pants are even greater than they first appear… they come with a color changing HUD!   Color combos baby!   Not a bad combo if I do say so myself.    I hope you enjoy my look as much as I do.
Felt The Pain Of Separation Wearing….
Hair – Eaters Coma – HAIR 13 / CHESTNUT
Skin – -Belleza- Mya Tan
Eyes – Mayfly – Liquid Light Mesh Eye (Desert Dawn Shadow)
Eyelashes – *REDGRAVE* Eyelashes -31- ExtraLong
Top – [LF] Dangerous Lingerie Pink w Tango Applier
Boobies – Lolas ::: Tango ::: Mesh Breasts
Hands – Slink Avatar Enhancement Hand Casual
Pants – VELOCITY Mynx Skinny Pant
Boots – ..:: Energie ::.  CARGO Boots
Tattoo – [Ner .Ink] Tattoo Japan Flors*
Earrings – .:* LOULOU&CO *:. – Earrings :: HESPERIDE :: Black
Necklace – *BOOM* Precious Bow Choker/Collar (pitch)
Bracelets – *BLITZED* Legacy Cuffs – black
Watch – *BLITZED* Legacy watch – black
Piercing – <-Puncture-> Gemstone Navel Piercing
Setting – Photo Square – Couple & Multipose area – free photo studio
I think my thought for the day would be….
Absence might make the heart grow fonder….
But the strong feelings of separation….
causes… desperate .. dangerous… emotions…
Til next time…
I’ll be kicking the boxes that are clearly marked dangerous…
Lavindia J. Fox


“In olden days a glimpse of stocking was looked on as something shocking but now, God knows, anything goes.” ~ Cole Porter


Isn’t that the truth.   I was talking with a friend about movies and the ratings now days.   Back in the olden days a movie that even hinted at a possible affair was marked immediately as an R.   Now.. shoot if your watching a movie and it does have some naked action in it … we feel cheated.    Well maybe its just me that feels that way.   I do love the innocence of the old movies tho.   Makes you feel sooo good.    I got to thinking about how simply sexy and racy it was to show a little hint of stockings in the old movies and got inspired to do a little pantyhose displaying.    I love stockings and pantyhose.    I love the way they cling to your legs and show off all your little curves.   Lets not forget how sexy it feels when that man in your life slides his hands around on your leg and gets all worked up.    We know how men love those tight-fitting silky textures now don’t we.   *wink*


Pulled Out The Pantyhose For Some Sexy Posing …

Hair – =DeLa*= Mesh Hair “Lala” Dark Browns

Skin – -Belleza- Mya Tan

Eyes – Mayfly – Liquid Light Mesh Eye (Desert Dawn Shadow)

Eyelashes – *REDGRAVE* Eyelashes -31- ExtraLong

Boobies – Lolas ::: Tango ::: Mesh Breasts

Hands – Slink Avatar Enhancement Hand Casual

Pantyhose – BAX Soft Shine Pantyhose Black 50

Shoes – N-core COQUETTE Platform “Black”

Pose Prop – [Gos & oOo] Pouffe – Small – Black


And the key to a strong sexy back….

Bottoms up!!!

Til next time…


Lavindia J. Fox




“They say when you are missing someone that they are probably feeling the same, but I don’t think it’s possible for you to miss me as much as I’m missing you right now”
― Edna St. Vincent Millay


Yeah I’m having one of those weeks.   I won’t moan about my missing husband for long.    I promise.   Its only been 41 days.   Ooops I meant to not mention the count down again.    I finally made it to Collabor88 to see the wonderful items they have up this month.    So many great things I got lost in a magical spending moments.   I fell deeply in love with this blouse and shorts outfit.   So soft and silky and perfect for a stroll on the beach.   I’m also sporting a new skin.   It’s from Belleza and I was swithering about wanting it when the magical notice came that the designers of Belleza released appliers for the Slink enhanced mesh hands.   I took that as a sign that I had to run straight out and buy myself a new skin!    I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.    This hair from D!va has that perfect windblown feel to it and it is also available at this May round of Collabor88.   So what are you waiting for… get over there and get shopping!


Looked For Messages In Bottles Along The Shore Wearing….

Hair – “”D!va”” Hair “Sayaka3” (Brown diamond) @ Collabor88 – May

Skin – -Belleza- Mya Tan

Eyes – Mayfly – Liquid Light Mesh Eye (Desert Dawn Shadow)

Eyelashes – *REDGRAVE* Eyelashes -31- ExtraLong

Top – Tee*fy Milena Ruffle Blouse Red

Shorts – Tee*fy Aimee Tailored Ribbon Shorts Black

Hands – Slink Avatar Enhancement Hand Casual

Feet – [Gos] Boutique – Barefeet V2 – Flat

Flip Flops – [Gos] Boutique – FlipFlops – Colour Collection

Earrings – EarthStones The Diamond Studs – Marquis

Bracelet – EarthStones Diamond Tennis Bracelet – Platinum

Ring – [AUX] Melt My Heart – Red

Nail Polish – Orc Inc. : Slink Avatar Enhancement Nails – Rich Set 1 @ Marketplace

Poses – (marukin) sol for collabor88, may

Setting – ~The Ritrovo~


There was so many quotes available for the word Longing… I had a terrible time choosing.

So I’ll close with two more of the ones that struck a nerve and caused me to whisper… awwww I know how that feels…

“Desiring another person is perhaps the most risky endeavor of all. As soon as you want somebody—really want him—it is as though you have taken a surgical needle and sutured your happiness to the skin of that person, so that any separation will now cause a lacerating injury.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage


“Wanting him to come back before anyone notices part of the world has not moved since he left.”
― Brian Andreas

*kicks some sand into the surf*

Til next time…

I’ll be the one longing for his return…

Lavindia J. Fox



“Strangely enough, the first character in Fried Green Tomatoes was the cafe, and the town. I think a place can be as much a character in a novel as the people.” ~ Fannie Flagg


Just what I was in the mood for today… a place that expresses the feeling that matched my own.   What better place than a dimly lit lonely cafe.   The cafe had the perfect quiet feel to it.   I ordered up a breakfast for 1 and did what I have become ever increasingly talented at over the past 40 days.    That talent will be checking my cell phone for messages.   *sigh*    Can you get tennis elbow in the wrist?    Or would it be called cellphone wrist.   Maybe I can claim some sort of disability from it?   Well I’m anything but hopeful.   *tips the cellphone up for another quick check*   Ah well for brighter sunnier topics…. I love this top from Zaara.   Its got a great silky soft feel and I will be back to gather some more great colors combos.   The accessories are also from Zaara.   I have always been a huge fan of her designs.   My pants are a staple of my inventory and they are from the one and only coldlogic!   Perfect for any occasion and roomy pockets for keeping your cellphone handy!


Compulsively Checked for Messages Wearing….

Hair – *Dura-Girl*39(Dark Brown)


Eyes – Mayfly – Liquid Light Mesh Eye (Desert Dawn Shadow)

Eyelashes – – DAMNED – My Perfect Eyelashes ❤

Top – Zaara : [Mesh] Ashima Blouse *fire*

Pants – coldLogic trouser – eise.taupe

Jewelry Set – Zaara : Atiriya set *carnelian*

Nails – Izzie’s – French Nails

Boots – [Gos] Posh Bootie – Obsidian [bagged]

Phone prop and pose – Adorkable Poses:  Cell Phone

Setting – ( Basilique ) Exclusive Members Club for Adults


Off for more sim crawling.

I left some coffee in my cup… feel free to finish it off 🙂

I hope you haven’t forgotten me…

If so….

Let me remind you….


Lavindia J. Fox